‘Ask Debbie Sue’ Dating advice with author & comedian Debbie Sue Goodman


I hope all my readers had a wonderful Holiday. Happy New Year! So far, the weather has been pretty good and warmer than most winters. This weekend we have some snow & sleet. I look forward to spring. I won an Oscar-related award for, ‘Best Comedian.’ I’m very happy & honored to win this award! A huge, ‘Thank you’ to my dear friend, Sandra. This month’s column is about dating someone that becomes possessive and what to do about it. Many of my female readers have asked what they should do if they’re dating a guy that wants to know their where-abouts every day & becomes too possessive. Perhaps these guys are insecure or they behave this way for other reasons. But, whatever the reason is for their behavior, it is best to move on and date someone else. If your first instinct tells you that something isn’t right, then go with your first instinct.

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‘Ask Debbie Sue’ Dating advice with author & comedian Debbie Sue Goodman


I hope everyone is having a nice month. Time flies by so fast. Summer is almost over already. The weather is cooling down. I’ve been keeping busy. I’m very honored to be nominated for, ‘Best Comedian’ for an ‘Oscars-related’ event on December 1, 2019!

I am very lucky to have wonderful male & female friends in my life. I’ve been getting numerous letters from my readers asking for ideas on how to find ‘Mr.’ or ‘Miss Right.’ For anyone that doesn’t want to try online dating, there are other ways to try to meet that special someone. Perhaps joining a Meet-up group with others that have the same interests you have. If you like playing board games, join a group that plays board games. If you like playing volleyball, join a group that plays Volleyball. There’s probably a Meet-up group for any hobby you enjoy. Even if you don’t find a partner to share your life with, it can be a fun way to meet new friends too. At my comedy appearances and author events everyone in the audience is always so friendly and they tell me about their dating experiences. Some married couples tell me how they found that ‘special someone’ to spend their life with. In my comedy show, Besides doing my celebrity impressions, I talk about different humorous dating experiences & fun ways to meet someone. The following date is from my first book. (When pay phones were still around.)

I found out you can meet a date in unusual places. For instance, I was standing in line at my local post office, minding my own business when the guy in front of me turned around. He was holding a bunch of envelopes. He said, “With a face like that, I feel like I can tell you anything.” He said, “I’m going to tell you everything.” He continued, “I lost my last four jobs, yep they fired me. I’m mailing out six resumes and my car was re-possessed.” So, I gave him my phone number. Not sure why, he looked like a nice guy. He called me up the next day and I heard a strange noise in the background. It sounded like a washer and dryer. Sure enough, he said, “I’m calling you from the local Laundromat, on a pay phone. They took my phone away. I only have a minute to talk because I’m running out of change. But, I’d like to take you out on a date… For a WALK!” I replied, “A WALK?! I don’t do things like THAT on the first date…

To the reader that asked to be anonymous: You say the guy you’ve been dating for a month is criticizing your clothes, your hair & your shoes every time you go out with him? He showed you photos of his ex & wants you to wear the same style clothes & have the same hair style? He’s telling you to change your hair color? First, you didn’t mention if you ever asked him why he’s criticizing everything you wear & your hair. It sounds like he’s trying to ‘change’ you. You said he’s divorced & he mentioned his ex-wife several times since you’ve been dating him. It sounds like he’s trying to turn you into his x-wife. From everything you’ve said, it’s very apparent that this guy clearly is not over his ex. The best advice I could give you is to speak to him about his behavior. Tell him you’re not changing your style for him or anyone. He needs to like you just the way you are. If he can’t change this pattern of behavior then it’s best for you to move on. There are plenty of guys out there that will enjoy your company & not want to ‘change’ you into something or someone you’re not. Good luck to you!

Until next time.. Have a wonderful week and “Keep Smiling!”

Debbie Sue

October 26, 2019- Join Debbie Sue & her friends for a fun, ‘Pre-Halloween’- Evening of Comedy & Music.’ At: Euro Echo Café 7919 Lincoln Ave in Skokie. No cover charge (Costumes Optional)

‘Ask Debbie Sue’ Dating advice with author & comedian Debbie Sue Goodman


I hope everyone is having a wonderful summer. Every week I receive many e-mails from readers that have asked questions about, how to search for the right man or woman to date. I find that if you’re engaging in activities you enjoy, Mr. or Miss Right may be there enjoying the same activities. Go dancing, skiing, bowling, golfing- whatever you’re interests are and perhaps your soul mate will be there. If not, at least you’re doing something that you enjoy. In my comedy shows I sometimes talk about some unusual dates my mom went on when she became a widow. She has been deceased for over 5 years now. Her spirit & her love is in my heart forever. I miss her so much & I think about all the things she shared with me. When she tried dating after being a widow for many years, she went on some humorous dates. She went out with one guy that met her & he was wearing green slacks, green shirt, green tie, green socks & ordered green tea!

Many years ago, I had a date with a guy I met at the health club. This date is also included in my book, ‘Still Dating.’ I found out you can meet someone single, in a fun way. I enjoy walking and working out every day.

I met a guy while walking the track at my health club. We made plans to meet for dinner at a restaurant in a shopping mall.

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‘Ask Debbie Sue’ Dating advice with author & comedian Debbie Sue Goodman

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Debbie Sue and her mom, Lois. Debbie’s book “Still Single” is dedicated to her mom.


I hope everyone is having a good spring even though the weather feels like it’s still winter. I hope it warms up soon. I do enjoy the 60’s & 70’s type of weather though. This month’s column is dedicated to my beautiful Mom who passed away 5 years ago. I can’t believe how fast time flies by. The photo on the top of this column was always one of my favorite photos of my Mom & I. It was taken on Mother’s Day several years ago when we went out for brunch. I’m enclosing a poem I wrote to my Mom many years ago. It’s also included in my first book, ‘Still Single.’ It’s called,

My Mom My Angel

How can I thank you for always being there?
To offer your special, sweet loving care.
You are always around,
To put a smile over my frown.
You ease my heartache and troubles by talking them out,
You always know what I’m worried about.
My Mom My Angel, you show your love in such a special way, I want to thank you my Angel, if I may.
For the kindness & caring you show me each day.
For the loving things you do and say.

Everyone loves your class and grace, your charity and beauty, the kind of lady little girls want to be. As a Mom and friend you are so kind, giving sharing and loving, people can see, I’m your daughter and so proud to be!

My Mom my Angel, you show your love in such a special way, I want to thank you my Angel if I may. For the kindness and caring you show me each day, for the loving things you do and say.
My Mom, a lady so special, so sweet, you won my heart. You are my life, it’s true,

As a gift, If I could, I’d wrap up all the love in the world and give it to you!

Happy Mother’s Day, My beautiful Mom, My Angel up in heaven.
I love you and miss you so much!


Dear Debbie Sue: ‘ My mom has been divorced for 10 years. She’s in her late 70’s. She met a man while she was getting her hair done at the beauty shop. He was getting a manicure. She invited him over for dinner one night & asked me to join them. She wanted me to meet him. She told me he was a bit older then her. I went to her condo for dinner & met him. He hardly spoke. He was a quiet man. He was shorter then my mom & hardly had any hair. He had sideburns. He looked much older then her. I’m very surprised my mom would be attracted to a man like this. He’s much different then my dad was. She really likes him. They’ve been dating about a month now. Should I say anything to her about my feelings? I’m worried she may end up in a serious relationship with this man. Please sign me: Worried about momma.

Dear Worried: From what it sounds like, there’s really no reason to be worried about your momma. She’s a grown woman that can make decisions on her own. It’s up to her to decide who she wants to spend her time with. It sounds like she enjoys this mans company & he sounds like he’s a good man for her to date. If they don’t wind up in a ‘serious relationship’ at least your momma has a nice companion to hang out with. Don’t compare him to your dad. Every man is unique in their own way. Be happy for her & let her enjoy this mans company. She’ll always be your mom. I’m sure she would want you to be happy for her just like she would want you to be happy in your own life too.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the Moms out there!

Until next time…

Keep Smiling!
Debbie Sue

‘Ask Debbie Sue’ Dating advice with author & comedian Debbie Sue Goodman


Happy Holidays! I hope everyone is keeping warm in this horrible arctic weather. I can’t wait until springtime. I had quite a few letters & questions from my readers about what to do when dating someone that doesn’t have much to say. What can you do when you’re out with someone that isn’t a conversationalist? If it’s a first meeting- Perhaps they are nervous or shy? Well, You can continue on with the date and see if he or she ‘opens up’ and talks a bit more or you can end the date. This reminds me of a guy I went out with when I was in my twenties. I met him at a singles function. He didn’t say too much. He asked me out to dinner. I met him at the restaurant. This was a man of a ‘few words.’

We met inside the restaurant and were seated quickly. We looked over the menus and ordered our meal. He said, ‘This menu has FINE foods.’ The waitress brought our food. While eating he said, ‘You dressed very FINE.’ I told him he dressed nice too. We didn’t have a lot in common and didn’t have any of the same interests. He didn’t enjoy going to movies or the theatre. I told him that I enjoy going to the health club and taking long walks. I asked if he enjoyed working out or taking walks. He said, ‘No, I’m FINE.’ He continued, ‘The pasta is FINE. The bread is FINE.’ He said, ‘We’ll go skiing next weekend! Though you don’t like skiing, you’ll be FINE.’ I didn’t have a chance to answer. He continued, ‘We’ll go to a movie. It’s a FINE night.’ I finally got a sentence in. I said, ‘I’d rather just go home.’

He asked, ‘Is a date next Friday FINE?’ I replied, ‘That’ll be FINE…’

I actually ended up staying friends with him. It shows that sometimes you need to give someone a chance, even though the first date didn’t turn out so good.


Dear Debbie Sue: ‘I’m dating a man for three weeks that doesn’t have much to say. We met at work, he asked me out. He’s quiet, handsome and I was attracted to him immediately. We hardly speak at work. Thought I’d give it a try. He’s sweet. I wish he would talk more so I could get to know him better. On the date, I asked if he likes his job, he answered, ‘It’s ok.’ I asked if he likes home cooked dinners. He responded, ‘They’re ok.’ I asked if he likes soft-rock music, He said, ‘It’s ok.’ I asked if he likes dancing. He said, ‘sometimes ok.’ He has nothing to say but he’s kind. Should I continue to date him or look for a man I can have a conversation with?’ Sign me: OKAY

Dear OKAY: This guy is handsome, but can’t hold a conversation? Ask him if he’s nervous or shy and see what he says. If after dating him a few weeks he’s still speaking in one or two word sentences, that might just be his true personality. You can’t make someone be a conversationalist if they’re not. Tell him how you feel. If he doesn’t ‘open up’ more, then perhaps you should move on. You sound like an outgoing woman & you need someone you can communicate better with. There are plenty of men out there that will like to converse and get to know you. You’ll be happier dating one of them.

In reply to my reader that would like to remain anonymous: If the man you’re dating for a few months is telling you to dress a certain way, wear your hair a certain way & speak a certain way, then he is trying to change you. You say he’s also telling you which friends you should go out with & what you should eat for breakfast, lunch & dinner? He’s definitely trying to ‘control’ you & every move you make. This is not a healthy relationship. The reason you’re questioning it & asking if you should continue to date him, is because you know in your heart, this is not the right man for you. Have respect for yourself. You should end the relationship. You’ll find a man that will love you just the way you are & not try to ‘change’ you. Join a singles group or do activities you enjoy & the right man will come along.

Until next time.. ‘Keep Smiling…’ Happy New Year!

Debbie Sue

‘Ask Debbie Sue’ Dating advice with author & comedian Debbie Sue Goodman


I hope everyone’s having a great summer! This month I’m answering a question that I’ve received from several of my readers. About losing touch with a good friend that has either moved far away or friends that don’t see each other anymore after many years of friendship. I’m also enclosing a poem from my first book. I wrote this poem many years ago, when one of my dear friends moved out of state & the distance between us had changed our friendship. We lost touch. I’m also answering a couple of questions from readers that wished to remain anonymous. Several male readers wrote that they ‘miss’ their buddies from college or their neighbors or whoever they were friends with after years of hanging out together. Try not to be sad that the friendships have ended. People come in & out of your life for a reason. They will always hold a special place in your heart. Treasure the times you shared together with your buddy/friend. Always remember the good times. Move forward, meet new friends & start new friendships.

Dear Friend

I miss you dear friend wherever you are,

You lived so close and now you are so far.

I cannot understand why it had to end.
We were so close, you were my best friend.

The talks we had, the times we shared,
You were always there and you really cared.

There were times we hurt each other and didn’t talk. It wasn’t right.
I’d still give anything to see you again for one night.

We enjoyed movies, clubs and danced the night away.
Oh, how I miss you dear friend today.

If I only knew how much I’d miss your smile,
Oh, If I could see you again for awhile.

I remember how we talked for hours and laughed so hard we cried,
The tears won’t subside. I miss you dear friend, a part of me has died.

That part of me only you knew my friend.
A part of me I never shared with anyone ever again.

This year has been so long..
Our friendship ending was so wrong.

Could we ever go back to what we had?
I’m heartbroken and so terribly sad.

Though we’re not talking, you’re forever in my heart.
This way, I know we’ll never be apart.

Dear Debbie Sue: I’m dating a guy for a few months that I thought I could have a serious relationship with. We have a lot in common. I like sports. We play basketball together & go to sporting events together. The issue is, he has a cell phone ‘problem.’ He keeps looking at his phone while we’re out having dinner or anywhere. While he’s at my apartment watching a baseball game, or sitting together, he keeps staring at his phone. He’s always answering his e-mails & his phone calls. I’ve talked to him about it. He holds my hand while we’re out doing different activities. He has one hand on mine & one hand holding his phone & looking at it. He tells me he has to keep looking at his phone. It’s a habit & he can’t seem to put his phone down. Feels like I’m in competition with a phone. It’s almost as bad as if he was cheating on me & dating someone else on the side. What should I do? I’m ready to give up on this relationship. Signed.. Hung Up.

Dear Hung Up: Tell him you want to talk to him ‘face to face’ without his phone on. Tell him to turn the phone off & look at you while you’re talking. Unless he has a job that requires him to answer his phone all day & night, then there’s no reason for him to constantly be looking at his phone & answering calls. I’ve written several columns about, ‘Cell Phone etiquette.’ Writing e-mails, texting, answering calls while you’re on a date is extremely rude. You’re not giving the other person your full attention. If your date can’t change his behavior. Then definitely consider ‘hanging up’ on this relationship. It won’t be hard to find someone that will give you their ‘full attention.’ Good luck to you!

Dear Anonymous: If you’re girlfriend keeps talking to waitresses in a rude manner, you need to talk to her about this. You say you’ve been dating her for 5 months & you’re only comfortable eating dinner with her at your home because of her rudeness towards waiters & waitresses. If you can’t eat out comfortably with her in various places besides your home, then consider finding a new girlfriend that you can be comfortable with. It sounds like you’ve talked to her about this behavior & she’s told you she’s not changing the way she speaks to waiters in restaurants. I went on a few dates with a guy when I was in my 20’s that spoke horribly to the waiters everywhere we ate. I left the waiters a very large tip. I felt so bad for them that I went back into the restaurant the following day to apologize for my dates behavior. I never gave him a 4th date. You should do the same. If your girlfriend can’t treat waiters & waitresses with respect, then look for a nice gal that will. Good luck to you!

Until next time… ‘Keep Smiling!’

Debbie Sue